When it comes to sex with an ex, my theory is you can’t spell sex without an ex, so you might as well go with it for now. I feel like there should be certain rules you must follow, if you go there with an ex. Please keep in mind these are the reflections of my personal beliefs on what should be done. This has been compiled from a variety of sources mainly my friends.
1)Don’t go there if it was a bad break up. It is only going to make the more hurt party feel like there is hope when there is none. If u decide to do it anyway there is no way to avoid at least one person hurt more than they were before.
2)Don’t go there if neither of you have really had a chance to move on. Too soon after a break up can once again give hope to at least one or both parties. If you have had the chance to move on and you are both comfortable with each other and there is no bad blood between you go for it if it feels right.
3)Don’t go there if either of you have a current significant other. That’s just asking for trouble.
4)Don’t go there if the sex was never great in the first place. If it wasn’t great why go back to it and bring up other emotions and feelings.
5)Don’t hook up with an ex when you’re intoxicated. It leads to absolutely nothing but regrets in the morning, and possibly even more hurt feelings.
As you can tell there are a lot of don’t in my book when it comes to this topic. This is because I have had many a friend and many an experience where it can go badly. But it’s my favorite time STORY TIME!!!
I have to say one of the funniest times where sex with an ex is involved, is when I was dating this guy for about 3 months or so, and we just weren’t sparking. The physical attraction was there, just no real emotional connection. We decided we would be better suited at being friends instead of bf/gf. (As you notice nice clean break up) a few weeks past, I haven’t been laid in a while, so I’m starting to feel a little bit of pleasure withdrawal if you will. Now mind you my ex and I are still good friends, so I know he’s not dating anyone yet. So he comes over to my apartment, and we are watching a movie on my computer. I feel that it is a universal thing that if you invite someone over to “watch a movie” it means I want to get busy. With the luck that I have, my ex is the only person in the world that doesn’t get this, so we literally watch a movie. On a scale of 1-disappointed, I was pretty freaking disappointed. So clearly with him a subtle hint is not going to work. So I wait about a week to invite him over to my place, and since subtle hints don’t work, I opened the door with black lacy boy shorts and matching bra on along with a red corset because that was his favorite color. He was completely floored and rushed in and ravished my body right there on my kitchen counter. We eventually made it to the bedroom, and it had to be some of the best no strings attached sex I have ever had. Sex with your ex is supposed to be no strings attached, but more often than not, there’s going to be strings because there is a brief or long history. It all comes down to the couple’s dynamic. This was an example of the good....The bad and the ugly to follow...
