Who, What, Where, When Why?

Who ever said sex was over rated wasn't getting laid on the regular.
What is it about relationships that scare people?
Where is it written that you deserve head for being a lazy piece (goes for men and women)
When will people learn that sex fades but conversation is for life
Why does the heart what it can't have so many times.

Who is willing to go deeper for true love and not settling for your baby momma or baby daddy?
What is the best time to have sex? beause I feel like if we wait till the end of the day we both tired
Where are all the educated black folk? They need to be the ones having kids, not these ghetto hot messes
When did it become socially acceptable to have kids before you got married?
Why become obessed with the material? when you lose it you lose all the people looking at you for it

Who ever said they were ready a for soul shaking, body rocking orgasm doesn't know what that means.
What is the point of asking for a change from others when you won't change yourself for the better?
Where are your parenting skills coming from?
When was the last time you truly felt passion when sleeping with someone?
Why do so many people lie about their sex skills? people will find out and put you on blast...so cut it out

Sexy vs. Skanky (office edition)

Sexy: Pencil skirts that hug your butt
Skanky: Mini-skirts that show your butt when you bend over

Sexy: Fitted pant suit from Express
Skanky: A pant suit you borrowed from your one night stand.

Sexy: Wearing what you would wear to a picnic to casual friday
Skanky: Wearing what you going to the club in, so you don't have to go home, after casual friday.

Sexy: A fitted sweater with dress pants and boots
Skanky: A fitted dress that leaves nothing to the imagination

Sexy: A white button up with a colorful undershirt that matches a tie
Skanky: A white button up where you can see the color of the bra being worn

Sexy: Closed-toe heels with 3-4 inches of height
Skanky: Open-toe sandal heels with 6 inches of height

Sexy: Pantyhose/ Stockings
Skanky: Fishnets

Sexy: Going to a bar or restaurant to close a deal
Skanky: Going to a strip club to close the deal

Sexy: being confident that your hard work will get you the promotion
Skanky: being confident your sex appeal and flirting with your boss will get you the promotion

Sexy: Being polite and showing the new person around the office
Skanky: Hooking up with the new person because they don't know your reputation.

Sex you want but don't talk about

For fear of sounding wierd or for fear of rejection, people are limited in their sexual experience because of what they want to bring to the bedroom. What I want to talk about in this entry are a few things for people to spice things up and step outside this box of inhibitions. Maybe you've done it, maybe you haven't, but either way it might spark something for you to try again or try for the first time.

Web Cam Sex- I'm not talking about anything super kinky, unless you're into that sort of thing, then by all means go ahead. I'm talking about a sexy strip tease for your partner or even a full on masturbation show. It really just depends on your comfort level. There are however a few guidelines you shold follow to enable an enjoyable experience for the both of you.

1. Make sure al lthe techy boring stuff is taken care of before hand nothing kills the mood more than a slow internet connection
2. Exaggerate the slowness of your movement or your partner may miss something you do
3. Anything you need must be within arms reach. (ie toys, lube etc.)
4. Make sure you position the camera so you are never out of frame. (there's no point if they can't see you)

Threesome- It may sound kinky, sexy and spontaneous, but the best threesomes are done with some one you know pretty well. Picking up a stranger is advice they give in movies and tv shows which isn't wise. Just a few rules that are set to ensure your successful Menge a trois.

1. Your third person should be someone that trust so as not to ruin the friendship later
2. Keep the lines of communication open. (Are you and/or your partner bi-comfortable? talk about it)
3. Set up guidelines so nobody does anything someone else doesn't like. (There will be resentment later)

Vouyerism- As far as your individual person goes, it can be looked at from either side. The most common would be you and your partner being watched, but to take it one step further, you or your partner watching the other with someone else. The adrenaline you get from not being in control amps up the orgasm you feel when you release.

Anal Play- For this you really need to be open in your sexuality. I know its a sensitive topic, but someone's gotta talk about it. with this type of sex play, it can be for both men and woman. The back door for a man can be pleasing if the right area is stimulated, the same goes for a woman. But there are a few rules to keep in mind before pursing this route

1. Don't do it unless you have permisson from your partner
2. Be hygienic. wash yourself of any feces so as not to smell and/or be offensive to your parner.
3. Be gentle and use enough lubrication.
4. The partner being penetrated should push back on the penetrator.
5. Relax, but stop immediately if there is pain, strong discomfort ot bleeding.

These are just a few things to get you thinking about different ways to spice things up. Talk to your partner about what you are comfortable with and how open you are willing to be with them sexually. The only thing ever lost is if you never ask.

Decoding the lies

Do you hear some these on the regular? If you do, you may be getting lied to. So next time you hear it say "why you lying?"

Men- "I'm scared to love because I was hurt before"
       -I want to see how much ass I can get from you before you wise up and leave me
Women- "We used to date, but he's just my friend now"
       -If you can't put the dick down this dude will be there to handle it.
Men- "I thought you trusted me"
       -I'm going to cheat on you, i just don't want you going through my phone to figure it out
Women-"I don't usually do this"
      -I don't want you to think i'm a hoe after this
Men- "Your friend is just mad at what we have"
      -I tried to fuck her, but she turned me down
Women- "Yes this is my hair"
      -I paid for it so it's mine
Men- "I wasn't looking at her booty"
      -I was i just didn't think you could see me do it
Women- "You're the father of litte Ja'kwame"
      -You may not be but you make the most money so i'm telling you its you
Men- "I don't like the way condoms feel"
      -I'm broke so i can't go buy some condoms. I just want to fuck and leave.
Women- "I don't do that"
      -I do, i just don't like you enough to do it for you
Men- "I just want you to be happy even if its not with me"
      -I want you to be happy only if its with me. I want you to think i'm sweet and sincere to get you back.
Women- "I've only slept with 3 guys"
      -Its way more than that, I just don't want you to call me a hoe
Men- "Let me call you right back"
      -I'm either just trying to get off the phone to holla at "shawty" or i'll forget to call back when i'm not busy
Women- "I would love a man for his heart not his money"
      -I don't want people to think i'm shallow but i really couldn't be with a broke man
Men- "Baby, i've been applying a lot of places, but nobody wants to hire me"
      -I'm telling you this so I can get some pussy tonight, and so you keep supporting my lazy.
Women- "I don't need a man for anything..."
      -He fucked my best friend and now i'm gonna be bitter and alone so I don't have to get hurt again
Men- "I Love You"
      -Either they mean it or it means I want some pussy
Women- "It's not going to cost much"
      -I don't want to tell you how much it's really going to cost because you'll be mad

More to come later

Ménage à trois

Usually this will intrigue men before it intrigues women, because woman are so programmed to think your man isn't satisfied with you so he's trying to find another option. I'm not saying it's not on his mind, but hello guys like sex, two hot females wanting to please him, not that he's not happy with you, but double the pleasure double the fun. To put it simply, if you could have two people pleasing you, would you want to try it. Women get so hung up on what it means and trying to analyze things, when its simple. So aside from that, the biggest question that plagued me was why are men so open to the idea of a Menage a trois, and why do women fear it? In my opinion, women are taught that if a man wants a threesome something has to be wrong with her, something he's looking for that she isn't giving him. Men on the other hand are encouraged to be adventerous, and try as much as possible, and have to try and in a sense trick his current lover/partner to be as adventerous.
So I took to my friends and asked them their thoughts on threesomes. To say the least most of them had fantasized about it, but never thought it would actually become a reality. The guys were all very against it being two guys one girl, and almost all the girls were into the idea of a "lesbianic" experience. The guys were into the idea of a girl kissing another girl, they even encouraged it. Yet when it came to the guys doing the same it was an astounding "naw man that shit is gay". So aside from the obvious double standard, which i won't get into this entry, everyone said that they wouldn't want to do it if they were in a relationship with one of the people. Another reason of why it wouldn't happen, was because they felt like it would be more fun to fantasize about it than to actually do it. ( It looks good in the movies, but don't most things look better there than in real life). And others just didn't think they were wild enough to ever actually go thru with it. On a side note I love how diverse my friends are in their views so I get a nice broad range of possible responses. So all in all I took in what they had to say, but my ideas are my own when it comes to sex especially threesomes. It breaks down to this, Would I? yes no question, but i'm a freak so what do you expect With who? either 2 guys or two girls i'm not afraid of a little girl on girl Have I? wouldn't you like to know.

It has come to my attention that I don't really talk that much about safe sex and what it can do for you in the long run. Please believe, when contemplating a threesome, you have twice as much risk as having just one partner. Ladies if you engage in threesomes with two men, please be on birth control and be using condoms. There is twice the risk of STDs and Pregnancies. There are enough babies being born to young mothers, no need for an accident that you can't support cause mommy and daddy got a little freaky.