So as many of you who know me personally or have friended me on a social networking site know that I date a lot, because i always talk about the funny series of events that is my life. I've had my fair share of flings, trysts, affairs, romances, one night stands and what have you, but those describe the action in which i share with someone, never really touching on the what you would call someone if you were talking to your friends about that person. So of course with everything now, I look to my new found addiction, Twitter. I've been asking around my twitter family, and what they have been saying they need and/or have, this holiday season, is a "Winterboo". This term as far as my knowledge goes originated with a gentleman by the self-given name of Smash Rock Well who by the way if ur not following on twitter ur missing out on great jokes and keeping your timeline extra sexy. But anyway, for me a winterboo is someone that may not be marriage material, but has great qualities in a date or even potential friend. You generally feel comfortable bringing this person around your family and friends, or even your co-workers, but only during the winter holidays, where it feels mandatory to be coupled up so as not to get pittied. It may not have been the intention, but I took it and that's how i'm going to use it, and i'm not ashamed to say that. They may not be marriage material, for whaever reason, "player", stubborn, overbearing, needy/clingy, the list goes on and on depending on what your personality is, but may be perfect to keep around for short periods of time, say the winter season for instance.
This brings up too many topics to write about, well in one entry at least. What i would like to focus on is the idea of not being ready for a serious commitment, but still longing for relationship interaction.With me maturing over the years, and being a young female dating older men, I haven't been ready to commit to someone for long periods of time, because I like to date and see what's out there. Getting more serious about what i want out of a relationship, I have become a little more "picky" so to say. So when I need to be coupled up for certain events like holiday parties with work and/or family or just someone to be with when its cold and i'm lonely, a "winterboo" would be nice to have around, with the option of becoming a potential. To me it just seems like they would be better suited to be around from as early as thanksgiving, and as late at Valentine's day if I were to put a time frame on it.
You may not find Mr. right, but Mr. right now is always available.
December 28, 2009
December 26, 2009
Merry Christmas!
I want to start out by saying that if you are in a relationship right now, this is the only time you will see me truly jealous. I hate being alone during the holidays, it depresses me because good single nookie is even harder to come by. Every decent guy is taken and all the loose ends can never quite get it done. I wont bore you with my humdrum personal life, I just needed to get a couple things off my chest before I tell you my Christmas story to spice up your Christmas night festivities. *Based on a true story but a few details have been changed*
Twas the night before Christmas and all through the apartment not a creature was stirring, not even the puppy. Decorations put up, and gifts wrapped under the tree, everything done in utopian perfection. Her boyfriend in shock when he got home to see this. You see he's never been big on Christmas with all bad memories. This year would be different, we would start a new tradition, for just the two of them. So he continued to walk through the place looking for his lady, and what did he find as he entered the bedroom but none other than that vixen in the bed sleeping. So he takes off his jacket and sneaks in the bed, cuddles up with her and softly wakes her up. She is pleasantly surprised to see her big strong man home from a long days work. They snuggled up close and he noticed without pause that she was laying there in his favorite, butt naked with a smile.
They begin to kiss heavily, stripping off his clothes, buttons flying everywhere but the rhythm staying on point. He kisses her head to well you know. He moves down her stomach to taste the sweet nectar her pussy creates. He ravishes her body making her climax multiple times, she's almost to weak to move but gathers up energy to return the pleasure. She climbs on top of her big strong man, kissing his chest and slowly creeping down. She gets to the V, you know what I mean, nibbles here, and nibbles there. With each tender motion he knows the pleasure that awaits him. She gets the momentum going, slowly sucking and blowing till his long thick penis is hard as a rod. She speeds up, making his toes curl and moaning in subtly pleasure. he can no longer hold it in he explodes with pure ecstasy.
He is rock hard again and says some cheesy line making her giggle and be unprepared for the deep penetration she is about to endure, she yells out in pure euphoric bliss. With each thrust he makes her scream and moan. They are getting their workout tonight. She stops him and turns around to say "its my turn to ride". She climbs on top of him, moving her hips like a hula hoop, she rides him back and forth cumming in the process. He plays with her breast as they bounce up and down sucking on them every time she leans forward enough. He enjoys her body, full figure, large breast, round thick booty. He soaks in all that is his woman, and with one last grind, lets out a passionate moan of enchantment their orgasms in unison, the fall to the bed laying in silence for this is a Christmas Tradition they both can get used to.
So I have shared with you a story based on real events, only slightly changed to fit my theme of Christmas, I hope you enjoyed, I know I sure had fun writing it.
Seasons Greetings to everyone, and to every one have a good night ;-)
Twas the night before Christmas and all through the apartment not a creature was stirring, not even the puppy. Decorations put up, and gifts wrapped under the tree, everything done in utopian perfection. Her boyfriend in shock when he got home to see this. You see he's never been big on Christmas with all bad memories. This year would be different, we would start a new tradition, for just the two of them. So he continued to walk through the place looking for his lady, and what did he find as he entered the bedroom but none other than that vixen in the bed sleeping. So he takes off his jacket and sneaks in the bed, cuddles up with her and softly wakes her up. She is pleasantly surprised to see her big strong man home from a long days work. They snuggled up close and he noticed without pause that she was laying there in his favorite, butt naked with a smile.
They begin to kiss heavily, stripping off his clothes, buttons flying everywhere but the rhythm staying on point. He kisses her head to well you know. He moves down her stomach to taste the sweet nectar her pussy creates. He ravishes her body making her climax multiple times, she's almost to weak to move but gathers up energy to return the pleasure. She climbs on top of her big strong man, kissing his chest and slowly creeping down. She gets to the V, you know what I mean, nibbles here, and nibbles there. With each tender motion he knows the pleasure that awaits him. She gets the momentum going, slowly sucking and blowing till his long thick penis is hard as a rod. She speeds up, making his toes curl and moaning in subtly pleasure. he can no longer hold it in he explodes with pure ecstasy.
He is rock hard again and says some cheesy line making her giggle and be unprepared for the deep penetration she is about to endure, she yells out in pure euphoric bliss. With each thrust he makes her scream and moan. They are getting their workout tonight. She stops him and turns around to say "its my turn to ride". She climbs on top of him, moving her hips like a hula hoop, she rides him back and forth cumming in the process. He plays with her breast as they bounce up and down sucking on them every time she leans forward enough. He enjoys her body, full figure, large breast, round thick booty. He soaks in all that is his woman, and with one last grind, lets out a passionate moan of enchantment their orgasms in unison, the fall to the bed laying in silence for this is a Christmas Tradition they both can get used to.
So I have shared with you a story based on real events, only slightly changed to fit my theme of Christmas, I hope you enjoyed, I know I sure had fun writing it.
Seasons Greetings to everyone, and to every one have a good night ;-)
December 7, 2009
Time to find a new mate....
Its time to find a new MAN if:
- He asks you to come across town for booty, but won't go around the block to help you fix a flat tire.
- He used to take you to out, but now he's saving up to move out your crib.
- You go from seeing or talking to each other every day to talking once a month.
- His name is only three letters, they ain't no good. (personal experience)
- He goes from taking you out to just hanging out. (ie booty calls, and only being at home)
- He spends more time at the nail shop than you. He is too high maintenance for you.
- He isn't worthy of bringing around your friends and/or family
- He spends more time at the strip club than at work or at home
- He gets his side chick pregnant and/or expects you to be the mother figure
- Quality time means you waiting on him hand and foot while he watches sports.
- The closest thing to a book that he reads is the history of Sports Illustrated
- The closest thing to a commitment is setting plans for that night
Its time to find a new WOMAN if:
- She has no useful skills. (ie cooking,cleaning, working...)
- She is looking for financial security instead of emotional security
- She refers to herself as a barbie or 5star chick. (she not ready to be a grown up)
- Her main goal is to raise children with no way to support them.
- She gets a little to friendly with your best friend, room mate, cousin, brother or father
- She'd rather fuck you than talk to you. (what female you know does that? Hoe tendencies)
- Collecting baby daddies is a hobby.
- She think being a bad bitch is a compliment.
- She refers to labels as friends. (Me and Louis V go way back, I used to rock with Dolce..etc.)
- The friends she keeps are doing better than her. (they keep her around to make themselves feel better)
- She said she pole riding to get through school. (and didn't mention what kind of pole)
- She doesn't want to be a wife but wants the big fancy wedding.
- He asks you to come across town for booty, but won't go around the block to help you fix a flat tire.
- He used to take you to out, but now he's saving up to move out your crib.
- You go from seeing or talking to each other every day to talking once a month.
- His name is only three letters, they ain't no good. (personal experience)
- He goes from taking you out to just hanging out. (ie booty calls, and only being at home)
- He spends more time at the nail shop than you. He is too high maintenance for you.
- He isn't worthy of bringing around your friends and/or family
- He spends more time at the strip club than at work or at home
- He gets his side chick pregnant and/or expects you to be the mother figure
- Quality time means you waiting on him hand and foot while he watches sports.
- The closest thing to a book that he reads is the history of Sports Illustrated
- The closest thing to a commitment is setting plans for that night
Its time to find a new WOMAN if:
- She has no useful skills. (ie cooking,cleaning, working...)
- She is looking for financial security instead of emotional security
- She refers to herself as a barbie or 5star chick. (she not ready to be a grown up)
- Her main goal is to raise children with no way to support them.
- She gets a little to friendly with your best friend, room mate, cousin, brother or father
- She'd rather fuck you than talk to you. (what female you know does that? Hoe tendencies)
- Collecting baby daddies is a hobby.
- She think being a bad bitch is a compliment.
- She refers to labels as friends. (Me and Louis V go way back, I used to rock with Dolce..etc.)
- The friends she keeps are doing better than her. (they keep her around to make themselves feel better)
- She said she pole riding to get through school. (and didn't mention what kind of pole)
- She doesn't want to be a wife but wants the big fancy wedding.
December 5, 2009
Yes BigDaddy...
I want to talk about a recurring theme with the men I seem to be picking to date. Men wanting their woman to be submissive to them, but if i'm smarter than you, how can I submit. I am more than willing to do whatever i can to make sure my man is pleased mind, body, and soul, but to let him take a controlling role, and him not even be worthy of it is not something I can idly sit by and let happen. I'm not talking about one specific aspect, i'm talking about from the bedroom to the foundation the relationship is based on.
When it comes to the bedroom, I don't mind being fairly submissive but to give complete control to a man is rather out of the question. Nobody can control my orgasm better than me, so why would I let someone else take that away from me. I fully believe that women have a more caring nature and should be able to give to their man in any shape or form that is asked. If he wants his dick sucked go ahead and do it, if he wants to try some new off the wall position go with it, if he asks you to stick a finger in his ass say eww that's nasty. I'm just joking but please do what you can for your man as long as you are comfortable, because guaranteed if you aren't open and at least willing to go there, he'll find a side piece that will. But then again if you don't want to and he truly loves you he wouldn't want you to do anything to pressure you negatively. To continue on what I was talking about, i'll be damned if you try to "work me" and I can't get to a climax because you want to be in control. That's just crazy.
Looking at gender roles, you see it being more oppressive than submissive. From the beginning of time women are seen as inferior, so why wouldn't they be seen as submissive in every aspect of their life. As society is progressing however, you see more and more women being independent and taking the lead in their relationships and life. You still see the struggles for successful and powerful women not being able to find a man that is secure enough in his manhood to be with a woman that brings home more money and has more power. The key to being in a successful female dominated relationship is knowing when to be submissive and not challenge the other person. This is key for men and women. Men need to learn to check their over sized ego at the door and let their women know they are their queen. Women need to learn to stroke their ego every now and again to let him know that he is their king.
Being submissive doesn't make you an inferior man or woman, it shows your vulnerability and your willingness to give unconditionally to your partner. Playful banter, and submissive play in the bedroom are great ways to keep the spark. Letting someone take the lead is healthy for longer lasting relationships. I want to see more people putting an end to getting caught up in gender roles and focus more on just loving the one you're with.
When it comes to the bedroom, I don't mind being fairly submissive but to give complete control to a man is rather out of the question. Nobody can control my orgasm better than me, so why would I let someone else take that away from me. I fully believe that women have a more caring nature and should be able to give to their man in any shape or form that is asked. If he wants his dick sucked go ahead and do it, if he wants to try some new off the wall position go with it, if he asks you to stick a finger in his ass say eww that's nasty. I'm just joking but please do what you can for your man as long as you are comfortable, because guaranteed if you aren't open and at least willing to go there, he'll find a side piece that will. But then again if you don't want to and he truly loves you he wouldn't want you to do anything to pressure you negatively. To continue on what I was talking about, i'll be damned if you try to "work me" and I can't get to a climax because you want to be in control. That's just crazy.
Looking at gender roles, you see it being more oppressive than submissive. From the beginning of time women are seen as inferior, so why wouldn't they be seen as submissive in every aspect of their life. As society is progressing however, you see more and more women being independent and taking the lead in their relationships and life. You still see the struggles for successful and powerful women not being able to find a man that is secure enough in his manhood to be with a woman that brings home more money and has more power. The key to being in a successful female dominated relationship is knowing when to be submissive and not challenge the other person. This is key for men and women. Men need to learn to check their over sized ego at the door and let their women know they are their queen. Women need to learn to stroke their ego every now and again to let him know that he is their king.
Being submissive doesn't make you an inferior man or woman, it shows your vulnerability and your willingness to give unconditionally to your partner. Playful banter, and submissive play in the bedroom are great ways to keep the spark. Letting someone take the lead is healthy for longer lasting relationships. I want to see more people putting an end to getting caught up in gender roles and focus more on just loving the one you're with.
December 1, 2009
Sex and Love
Sex is a game and Love is an art. Don't try to play a game when you want to create art. -Dymond Diva
When it comes to sex and love people tend to get things confused. The way to get to someones heart is not through their pants or up their skirt. You can't expect someone to love, cherish and respect you for years to come if all you seem to do is suck and fuck when you see each other. There is no foundation to that relationship, so it can not grow into anything stable and substantial.
There are common phrases talking about someones "sexgame". This is because you can play so much with sex and its supposed to be fun. You play with food, with toys, with positions, with so much, that it is just like a game. People always want to know how good at it you are. With society norms being what they are, guys are more open about their "game", even if it is a lie, they will still talk about it.
When it comes to love, it is like art. A lot of great love is lost, because its not appreciated and cared for when its around. Great artisits like Picaso, Da Vinci and Van Gough didn't get significant recognition until their lives were over. My first great love didn't appreciate me until he cheated on me and I left him. He didn't realize that I was his everything and I was the only one that supported him the way he needed. Didn't realize it till he left his 80% for that 20%. If you don't know what that means go watch Tyler Perry's "Why did I get married".
If you want to build a masterpiece, don't let the games of life and sex get in the way and cloud your judgement. If you're not ready for love, then don't lead the one you are with to believe that you are, it only leads to hurt feelings and bitter people. If more people are open about their true feelings and intentions, then less people would be in toxic relationships and marriages. Just marinate on that and don't let it escape your mind when you enter into your next relationship.
When it comes to sex and love people tend to get things confused. The way to get to someones heart is not through their pants or up their skirt. You can't expect someone to love, cherish and respect you for years to come if all you seem to do is suck and fuck when you see each other. There is no foundation to that relationship, so it can not grow into anything stable and substantial.
There are common phrases talking about someones "sexgame". This is because you can play so much with sex and its supposed to be fun. You play with food, with toys, with positions, with so much, that it is just like a game. People always want to know how good at it you are. With society norms being what they are, guys are more open about their "game", even if it is a lie, they will still talk about it.
When it comes to love, it is like art. A lot of great love is lost, because its not appreciated and cared for when its around. Great artisits like Picaso, Da Vinci and Van Gough didn't get significant recognition until their lives were over. My first great love didn't appreciate me until he cheated on me and I left him. He didn't realize that I was his everything and I was the only one that supported him the way he needed. Didn't realize it till he left his 80% for that 20%. If you don't know what that means go watch Tyler Perry's "Why did I get married".
If you want to build a masterpiece, don't let the games of life and sex get in the way and cloud your judgement. If you're not ready for love, then don't lead the one you are with to believe that you are, it only leads to hurt feelings and bitter people. If more people are open about their true feelings and intentions, then less people would be in toxic relationships and marriages. Just marinate on that and don't let it escape your mind when you enter into your next relationship.
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