Sexy: wearing sexy high heels
Skanky: walking around barefoot with high heels in hand
Sexy: wearing a form fitting dress
Skanky: wearing a too tight dress that was meant to be a top
Sexy: Upscale attire dresses and heels a must
Skanky: "Upscale attire" jeans and tennis shoes okay
Sexy: Upscale Events (Gala, Benefits, holiday events)
Skaky: Themed Parties (golf pros and tennis hoes, pimps up hoes down, CEOs and secretary hoes...get the picture)
Sexy: (on men) Button-up and fitted not skin tight jeans and dress shoes
Skanky:(on men) too-tight Ed Hardy shirt jeans and too much gel
Sexy: simple jewelry that's real and compliments your outfit
Skanky: big flashy jewelry that's fake and clashes with everything (ie anything bamboo)
Sexy: Jimmy Choo designer heels
Skanky: Gucci knock offs
Sexy: flirting with a cute guy you meet at the club
Skanky: having sex in the bathroom with a cute guy you meet at the club
Sexy: buying a drink for the guy you're interested in.
Skanky: asking every dude that walks by to purchase you a drink
Sexy: dancing to the beat
Skanky: humping on the floor
January 26, 2010
My Love is Cold, Deep and Strong
I want to share with you a few things about me so that you can understand where i'm coming from when I write these entries. I am a young, beautiful woman, and I am utterly confident in my sex appeal even though I am not the society norm. I would change a few things but what woman wouldn't. I love my mind, the way i think and process, and my thirst for knowledge. On the other hand I don't have the same passion when it comes structured education, but I like to learn none the less. I have been through love's ups and downs, and through no fault of one relationship, my heart is icey. I look at the plain black and white when it comes to love, the logic behind it. Many people will say that you can't look at love that way, those people are emotionally involved in a relationship or haven't been jaded as I have. When it comes to true love I am the biggest supporter of everyone finding what they want, need and what they are looking for. I've had love in my life before, true love, everlasting, give your all to this person love. I lost so much of who I was trying to be with this person that our relationship ended badly and left a bitter taste in my mouth for a while. I think love is for other people just not for me. I look at the statistics and potentials out there and its just depressing. People are on the one hand shallow and don't see what I offer as a person, all they see is sum "thick chick" that will be easy. I am more than my size, I am a woman, of strong beliefs and high goals. And then on the other hand, people are naturally racist. In my case, when you mix the two the market for men that find me desirable shrinks. Don't get me wrong, this isn't some self-pity I hate my thighs type entry, because I love all of me from head to toe. I guess I can't really get mad, because I'm not looking for love and I honestly don't need it to find me. Please don't think that I'm cynical or anything, I just want to live my life with nobody standing in my way or making me feel bad about it. I would rather spend my whole life working on a career than working on some new compromise of self in a marriage. It may sound selfish, but its how I feel. Who knows, the right man may come along and sweep me off my feet and completely change my mind, but until then, it is what it is.
January 15, 2010
Men Of My Life
Ya girl found a new "beau" if you will to start her year off on the right foot. I'm a little nervous about it, because I like him a lot. I haven't had butterflies like this since the boyfriend of all boyfriends that made me a little bitter towards black men. Now before you jump on my case about that statement, no this isn't some "Diary of a Mad Black Woman" ish I just look closer at the company I keep when black men are involved. So since then I have placed any new and existing men in my life into 4 different groups: Buddy, Booty, Bestie, BF/Potential. They don't get moved around, because that adds confusion to the mix and would break down the whole system. There are of course exceptions to this rule, and some that don't get categorized.
Buddy- a guy that gets placed here will never get the booty, he will be kept here in the anticipation of, without ever getting there. He may or may not know this, however if left with the impression or illusion he will, he will stay around longer. Buddies tend to have a higher turnover rate, they come and go, which is not a problem, because they come a dime a dozen. The are from all walks of life, artsy, thuggish, nerdy, etc. The buddy is a girlfriend replacement. when you don't feel like being around girls and the catty behavior your buddy is there with video games, sports or party hook-ups.
Booty- This is all this guy gets, I call him, he calls me, we work it out and make it happen. We don't hang out on the weekends, we casually speak about what happened last time and what we want to do in the future. If we run into each other in public, we will be cordial like giving a hug or kiss on the cheek, and the conversation is kept to a minimum especially since your friends and his friends may not know that you know each other. Booty has no opportunity to move to any other category. Once I get bored with them or the sex is whack they get dropped and I move on. I'm kind of cold towards guys in this category because it helps me to not get emotionally involved. They tend to get more invested in me and try to move out of this group when that happens I have to let them go.
Bestie- I hold these men closest to my heart, because they are basically family. They can have whatever they want and need. There is nothing sexual about our relationship, its a bond of friendship. They get me and I get them. They are the men that I know will beat up any fool that hurts me, and cherish the laughs and memories we build. We watch sports together, play video games together and they are the best wingmen a girl could ever ask for. They don't cock-block, because they know I will bring the bitches with my slick tongue and cool attitude.
BF/Potential- This guy gets star quality treatment. He is the guy I probably flirted with first. He makes me blush and giggle, not laugh. He makes me smile not cheese. He makes me want to love not just lust. We talk on the phone for what seems like short periods of time but is actually hours. There is a mutual sensual/sexual attraction along with the intellectual respect for each others mind. Goals are career based, with support from future spousal commitment. If you get placed in this category, and it doesn't work out, you can not remain to be put in another category. I am done with you If you aren't good enough to be my BF why would I keep you around as a friend. Think about that.
The only problem with this "amazing" (lol) system is guys not knowing their place. I don't mean for it to sound so harsh, but it is what it is. You should always know where you stand with someone, because nothing is worse than trying to explain to someone you're not friends this is just a sex thing or you will never get this so stop being a bug-a-boo. It can so easily turn into a bad situation no matter who you are dealing with, so you have to keep in mind no matter how close of friends you may be, dealing with the opposite sex is always tricky so be careful with emotions and egos.
Buddy- a guy that gets placed here will never get the booty, he will be kept here in the anticipation of, without ever getting there. He may or may not know this, however if left with the impression or illusion he will, he will stay around longer. Buddies tend to have a higher turnover rate, they come and go, which is not a problem, because they come a dime a dozen. The are from all walks of life, artsy, thuggish, nerdy, etc. The buddy is a girlfriend replacement. when you don't feel like being around girls and the catty behavior your buddy is there with video games, sports or party hook-ups.
Booty- This is all this guy gets, I call him, he calls me, we work it out and make it happen. We don't hang out on the weekends, we casually speak about what happened last time and what we want to do in the future. If we run into each other in public, we will be cordial like giving a hug or kiss on the cheek, and the conversation is kept to a minimum especially since your friends and his friends may not know that you know each other. Booty has no opportunity to move to any other category. Once I get bored with them or the sex is whack they get dropped and I move on. I'm kind of cold towards guys in this category because it helps me to not get emotionally involved. They tend to get more invested in me and try to move out of this group when that happens I have to let them go.
Bestie- I hold these men closest to my heart, because they are basically family. They can have whatever they want and need. There is nothing sexual about our relationship, its a bond of friendship. They get me and I get them. They are the men that I know will beat up any fool that hurts me, and cherish the laughs and memories we build. We watch sports together, play video games together and they are the best wingmen a girl could ever ask for. They don't cock-block, because they know I will bring the bitches with my slick tongue and cool attitude.
BF/Potential- This guy gets star quality treatment. He is the guy I probably flirted with first. He makes me blush and giggle, not laugh. He makes me smile not cheese. He makes me want to love not just lust. We talk on the phone for what seems like short periods of time but is actually hours. There is a mutual sensual/sexual attraction along with the intellectual respect for each others mind. Goals are career based, with support from future spousal commitment. If you get placed in this category, and it doesn't work out, you can not remain to be put in another category. I am done with you If you aren't good enough to be my BF why would I keep you around as a friend. Think about that.
The only problem with this "amazing" (lol) system is guys not knowing their place. I don't mean for it to sound so harsh, but it is what it is. You should always know where you stand with someone, because nothing is worse than trying to explain to someone you're not friends this is just a sex thing or you will never get this so stop being a bug-a-boo. It can so easily turn into a bad situation no matter who you are dealing with, so you have to keep in mind no matter how close of friends you may be, dealing with the opposite sex is always tricky so be careful with emotions and egos.
January 1, 2010
New Year..New Outlook
It's now the year 2010, and I feel like for everyone 2009 was just a bad time. It may be because its still fresh in our mind, but too many losses too much downfall and just too much negativity. So i'm gonna go into the new year with a new outlook on life and a positive dispostion on anything that i encounter. I've already discovered new relationships, romantic and otherwise that I am happily embracing. So with all this being said, I want to thank all my readers for being apart of the beginning of my blogging journey and I hope to have many more exciting stories and insightful advice to share with the coming year. I am always here for advice, questions, debates, anything you can throw my way, drop a comment or an email, i'll get back to you as soon as I can. Until the next entry, enjoy your love life, your sex life, and your new beginnings in 2010.
With Love and Kisses The One and Only
~Dymond Diva~
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