Self Love

There have been so many things that are taboo that have become a normal part of people's sex lives, such as blow jobs and anal sex. So I asked myself, why is masturbation still hidden like it is some sort of secret society? we know its there, but people only talk about it jokingly, classes on masturbation are kept very quiet. Yes I know that sounds weird, but I have known so many people, women especially that don't know how to properly make themselves climax which in turn leads to a drab sex life. Knowing the body is important, so how can you expect someone else to know you if you are a stranger to your own body.

Have You Ever?

Have you ever been so horny that every thought was sexual? I was in the kitchen making a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and all I could think about was how it would feel to get fucked on the counter. I was riding in a car with my best friend and two of his friends, all I could picture was riding on top of his friend in the back seat. Maybe it's just me, but when I get horny like I am now, all I can think about is having sex. Can't focus, can't work, can barely write, and now I am trying my hardest to not call someone on my groupie list. I need to rectify this situation immediately because when playing with the kitty doesn't get the job done, it is a problem. but all the TMI aside, my love life is so drab these days, I started talking to my ex and he lives up north no, so a road trip might be in my future. Just Jokes ;) so please be on the look out for random posts and nonsense in the near future hopefully lasting no longer than next weekend.

How Dare You?

• Demand sex (who are you?)
• Wear an outfit that highlights the outline of your penis or vagina (nobody wants to see it)
• Live above your means. (we all know you live at home with your momma)
• Lie about who you're sexing? (fucking someone else is not a deal breaker, lying to me about it is)
• Expect he pussy. ( just because you paid for dinner doesn't guarantee you pussy, hell I could have paid for my own meal)
• be more emotional than a pregnant woman (you are a grown man share your emotions don't be a baby)
• Try to make me a baby mama (this is a no baby zone)
• Arguing about something you have no control over (you look stupid and we still can't change it)

Love is complicated. Sex is easy.

To love someone you go through ups and downs. It is a constant roller coaster of emotions, but the end result is always the same, happiness. When it comes to sex there is no complications, there is only one way to sex. There are a million ways to love someone. So when I say love me, i want there to be some thought and imagination. When I say sex me, make me feel good the best way you know how.

AS many of you can probably tell and if you know me, from time to time I get off my game and don't write for a long period of time. I'm going through some things emotionally and I need to take a little breather. I will try to post as much as I can, but I can't guarantee the quality, so it will be fewer and further between when I post. I love you all for reading my blog and sticking with me, so I hope to be up to par real soon. Much love

The One and Only

~Dymond Diva~

Is it cheating or just dating?

When it comes to being single, it's different for everyone, because everyone has a different style of dating. So is it really cheating when you are dating more than one person? A guy approaches me and asks me am I single? if I say yes even though I'm dating someone is that a lie and am I cheating on the person I'm dating? I have no significant attachment to said person, but I am seeing them. I feel as though the lines get blurry when you meet someone new and you are already dating. It's so burned into our brains that as soon as you are dating someone you are in a relationship when truthfully they are not synonymous. Being single is a solo act, while dating is the process that leads to a steady commitment. So does dating more than one person automatically make you a cheater or is it just the way a single person gets to the relationship stage? In my opinion it's not cheating however I know a number of people that would beg to differ in my view point. Then again it is so easy to confuse this if you don't have open communication in the relationship.So make sure when "courting" someone new, you take into consideration both parts so you don't feel ambushed later on.
"Are you single?" & "Are you dating anyone?"

Generation Y and Marriage...rarely together

The holy sacrament of marriage is nothing to be taken lightly, yet in today’s society people are getting married left and right. So why is it that black women are among the highest percent of women that are still single at age 40? Books, movies, even newspapers and magazines show the statistics of professional black women not married at age 40 and up. Black women love to idealize the female role models like Oprah for being successful, and take her advice on dating and relationships, but they don’t realize she’s not married, and well over 40. Personally I look up to Oprah for her professional achievement, but I’m not going to her for relationship advice, I look to my parents and grandparents who have been married since before I was born and stayed together. Women tend to get so wrapped up in the glitz and glam of weddings that they forget to look at the person they are choosing to spend the rest of their life with. A wedding is a fancy party, and a marriage is a lifetime commitment. Although with the emotional decay within the institution of marriage, forever isn’t forever, it is only as long as you can both stand to be married. So not only is the strength of marriage breaking down, the emotional stability within black women to find a suitable mate is not looking too positive either. Successful black women are given this image, that since they are “perfect” in the professional realm, physical attributes, and social circles, they are well rounded enough to find a man perfect just like them. However, the reason they can’t find “Mr. Perfect” is because there are no good men left. This is so untrue, there are plenty of well rounded, successful black men, but they get overlooked and treated poorly, by the women that emotionally can not handle a worthy man based on the ideals that they are given. If more women looked at the qualities a man has and less at the high standard checklist they dream a man would have, they would find not “Mr. Perfect” but “Mr. Perfect for them”.

Ladies does your man resemble this? Fellas which one are you?

• Mr. Thirst McGurst - he hits on every woman that he comes across in the hopes that someone, anyone will have sex with him and/or just give him some attention. the worst kind of Mr. Thirst McGurst is one that is attractive, because he is seemingly unaware of how hot he is gets the pussy thrown at him left and right and accepts it.
• Mr. Thug van Gangsta- he is the ghetto type of guy that will say the smoothest lines and have the cutest smile, but will leave you for the main chick he has at home that is the mother of his child and holds him down. (approach with caution, because if he does have a baby mama she is most likely crazy and will hurt you)
• Mr. Perfect on Paper - he looks great on paper, like a resume he has built. educated, good job, nice car, home owner, but probably one of the most boring men you will ever meet. He spent so much time building up his guy resume he has no interests and experiences. He looks good, but not well rounded.
• Mr. Cannot Tell The Truth - this man lies so much, because he's a "player" this guy will lie to you about his name, his address, why his phone is off everything. If you were blind he would tell you the sky was purple. He is just bad news, so pay close attention to the stories he tells.
• Mr. Perfect for you - what else is there to say he's perfect, but most females will mess it up digging for something to be wrong. He loves you and wants to be with you, he's not like the losers from your past. they were supposed to prepare you for this moment of finding him, but you are so jaded that you bug him till it is too late and he is gone. back to the fishing pool, good luck finding another one of him and not messing it up.

February is upon us..

and yes I am taking applications for being my Valentine this year. I am feeling the love, and I want to make sure those in my heart are around and that they know just how much I care for them. Aside from the love of friends, I am looking for a new beau that I can spend V-day with and be all cuddled up and cutesy. I do not however promote or condone the commercialism of the holiday. Spending hundreds of dollars on gifts, flowers, chocolate, and dinner is utterly ridiculous, because a good partner would do that regularly and Valentines day should be more about spending quality time just the two of you. But then again, I'm not a materialistic type of chick, you can't buy my love or my time.

On a separate note, we also have black history month. Me being half black I feel that I have the right to say and I quote from my facebook status update "I feel like if you know the well known facts about black history don't try to act like you're smart when February rolls around like you put me up on something...if I learned it in 3rd grade...upgrade the wisdom and tell me something I couldn't find on a poster about black history...I love my heritage, and I respect it, but I refuse to disrespect it by faking knowledge just because of the date...." If you don't like it, I'm sorry you feel that way, but then again I don't care cause its my opinion, you don't have to like it. I love my black people, but too many times am I embarrassed, ashamed and apologizing for them. So how dare they act all high and mighty when February rolls around and try to spit some 3rd grade knowledge at me like I'm the moron. I love you black people, but we need to do better and expect better of ourselves.