Cali Pride...

My blood is California thick.
My heritage mixed up
Don't get it twisted I'm always me first
and my skin second.
Got so much pride in where I come from,
I hate on the top half of my state.
SoCal born and raised
in some of the best cities you never heard of.
I'm not hollywood and I'm not street
I come from LA
But I bleed for my state.

10 Things I Have to Say to Black Men

1. I call you my nigga when you act like that, I don't claim you as a man because you have yet to prove that quality to me. 
2. Everything you hate about yourself I adore. I love you from the surface of your skin to the roots of your blood, because I embrace your culture and appreciate your presence in my life.
3. Your struggle doesn't define your character how you overcome and surpass it does.
4. The world envies your heritage and constantly imitates it, why do you think they don't want you to succeed? It comes naturally to you what they strive to be.
5. You call my attitude an issue, because you don't want to deal with the strong opinions. You hide behind that excuse and expect me to understand your perspective with no second thought to the over sexualization of  the color in my skin. 
6. Be a man, and not the imitation of what men appear to be, because most of them are just entertainers.
7. Don't allow your broken heart to destroy the potential of a great relationship because you are too pig-headed to set aside your ego to let a good woman love you.
8. Blessed is your heart as you shine in character. So stop hiding behind ill-intentioned boys trying to persuade you that all men are the same. Be who you are supposed to be, not influenced by bad role-models and imagery. Good character breeds success in spirit and loyalty in those you surround yourself with.
9. Stop blaming others for your lack of success in life, love, and career. Take ownership for all that you do. When you have nothing left to do for the situation, give it up to God and know when to walk away from something that poisons your soul. 
10. If you don't prefer black women, it is okay, but don't make excuses for the woman you do choose, because that makes you look weak. Love her with all your heart because of who she is and not because she's not something else.

Can We?

Can we just be happy together?
Spending time together in utter silence as the sun rises and sets.
Can we cook together?
making glorious meals that we never get around to eating.
Can we work together?
Support my endeavors as I support yours?
Can we grow together?
Learning from past mistakes, learning new tricks, and learning how to be better people
Can we build a life together?
Can we?

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With this new blog I have given myself more structure and more topics to discuss. What loving this big girl is all about and so much more. There is a new post every Friday so make sure to check back for all my updates!

Everyone has the Tendency...

He asked me if he was always an asshole, I told him yes. He was shocked I said it, but I had to let him know what the facts were.

You were an asshole when I met you, and I was an asshole when you met me, but that doesn't change the fact that I grew into a better person and you are still circling the same asshole pool.

No I don't think I'm better than you, hell I'm still discovering who I am. But I refuse to sit here and stroke the ego of a man that's not worthy of me. I can deal with an asshole because it is what I have grown to know. But I don't want to deal with my mate, I want to balance with my mate. No woman wants to be with the asshole, but she has to try a few to keep her busy while she waits on Mr. Right-For-Her.

Fuck Feelings

Understand, I'm not that bitch. I'm not going to stroke your ego, so you can keep acting however you want to. You want the truth about how I feel for you, ask me. I'm never going to sugar coat or back down on my ideals because you might not like it. If you show me you can't handle the truth about what I think, I won't engage in that conversation. You are too weak to understand and too chicken to grow.