Is it bad when...

Is it bad when you sleep with someone, but then the next night you sleep with their best friend?

Is it bad when you know you shouldn't like someone and you do?

Is it bad when you make stuff up to sound more interesting?

Is it bad when you know you shouldn't but you do anyway?


These are all questions i have received recently, I was quite intrigued and a little shocked. (I have changed the actual questions a little to better suit the blog. content same, wording different.) i can and will answer them....


Is it bad when you sleep with someone, but then the next night you sleep with their best friend?

I really wanna say that it's bad, but who am i to cast the first stone, when i have been in that situation. It sucks to be that person, but if you don't feel bad, then who is anyone to say right or wrong. Just make sure you are being safe, use protection and always have an up to date STD test. Don't be stupid with sex, use your head.

Is it bad when you know you shouldn't like someone and you do?

No, it happens to the best of us. You fall for that bad guy or girl, that you know you shouldn't like, but you can't help it they have something that obviously intrigues you. I say let it pass, try not to act on it, cause it will only cause problems.

Is it bad when you make stuff up to sound more interesting?

Yes tell tales, lying, fibbing all that jazz is bad news. If you're not interesting, do something with your life to be able to tell true stories. Tell lies gets you nowhere fast.

Is it bad when you know you shouldn't sleep with someone but you do anyway?

I guess for me it would depend on who you sleep with, and why you shouldn't be sleeping with them. I would say its definitely bad if you have been down that path before and it only ends in heartbreak. Trust me nobody asks for that. If you are feeling guilt about either your or their relationship outside of the obvious sexual one between the two of you, there is probably a big issue you need to work out. If you feel guilty about it, it's probably a bad thing.

There is no right or wrong answer to any of these questions. I have given you my perspective, take from it what you will. If you disagree I respect your opinion, however it is your opinion not mine. I take all questions very seriously, so don't be shy ask away. So until the next question rolls my way much love and happiness...enjoy your night

Big kids play with toys too....

So i'm obviously no stranger to the local sex shops, but i wanted to talk about something that i think is fun and a joy to have in my life, and that would be my favorite toy. I feel like the greatest invention for women in this area is the jack rabbit, and it comes in many shapes, sizes, colors and speeds. I mean don't get me wrong I have an assortment, of toys from dildos, pocket rockets, and g-spot vibes, but nothing and i mean nothing compares to the jack rabbit vibrator. i may be getting to comfortable with it, but it's not like any man has been able to get me close in a long time. I've begun to organize and throw passion parties which for me and my girls has been good. They get to ask questions and i get to learn about the differences women have when it comes to achieving orgasm. BOOOOOYYYYY let me tell you fellas ya'll need to step ya game up cause the toy biz sure has. I don't know if me and my girls are dipping from the same learning pool, but guys just don't seem to get the formula right. Either they cum to quickly and don't get them off or take forever, and aren't really working it like they should. Any who, back to the main topic, if you're interested in a quick get ya mind right type orgasm we came to a general agreement that most pocket rockets will get the job done. What i love about the pocket rocket is that it comes in so many varieties, that you can make it fit your personality. If people know you're allergic to chocolate, and they see you with a "betterfinger" pocket vibe, they are gonna be suspicious right?

My personal beef with dildos is that I am doing to much work to get off. I mean if i am really just trying to enjoy myself and relax, why would i want to do all the work? IT MAKES NO SENSE TO ME. Anyway, they do at least offer many different colors, sizes, shapes, and textures. They all look pretty cool, but unless you know your body and can easily cum from vaginal stimulation, i would not invest in them.

G-spot vibes look kind of funky but they get the job done. I have personally experienced them, i feel like other things work better, weather it be my fingers, or another toy. They on the other hand had many positive things to say about it. One of the main things is that it could find the g-spot unlike many of the men they had been with.

Whatver you're looking for in a vibrator, make sure it works for you, not what your friend recommends cause it's usually what works for her. And always remember if all else fails, use ur fingers, or get the real thing. Please continue to send in questions i know i haven't written as often, but i am finding more time to get it done, so untill the next question rolls my way much love and happiness...enjoy your night

What's good ma?

Is this supposed to be the new pick up line of the 21st century, because if it is i'll gladly stay single. I don't want any man that thinks its okay to call me ma or mami, mainly because i'm not ya mother. I don't want a man that will call me sugar, honey or babygirl, because i'm not ya daughter. If one more man calls me Shortii we are going to have issues. Yes Plies revived it with his song Shawty and The Dream with Shawty is a 10, but that does not make it okay to call every girl you are trying to "holla at" or your girlfriend Shawty. I hate sounding bitter and angry, but this is an issue that has been on my mind for a while. When i'm in the streets or even on myspace, i can't go a day without being called ma, mami, shortii, babygirl, or hon. This is an epidemic that needs to be stopped, and if it doesn't, well i guess i'll be single till a man can step to me correctly.
Enough of this bitter angry woman stuff, and on a side note, Ms. Nikky has moved back home to the fast life of LA and i am utterly excited. Maybe this time i will get a chance to write more about my experiences since i will be going out just about every night i can. Hawaii has been fun, but goodbye aloha state, and hello fun state. Don't worry Hawaii we can always be friends.
Please continue to send in questions i know i haven't written as often, but i am finding more time to get it done, so untill the next question rolls my way Much love and happiness...enjoy your night

Big Mind...Small Mind....

So i've been meaning to talk about this one for a while. There's this guy, and i'm really feeling him. I like his style, his swag if you will. I am beginning to be smitten with him, and if you know me, i want to know what he's like, and if you don't know me that means i hope he knows how to fuck. (excuse my language) So he comes over to my place, and we hang out, we're talking and laughing (you know the whole we're getting to know each other thing), and then next thing you know i'm laughing he's laughing and decides he's gonna kiss me. I'm sitting there suprised, but not pulling away it was good to me, so i go with it. Things are starting to get hot and heavy, so i'm still going with it. This guy, to my surprise, was huge. I was totally into it and was like it's gonna be amazing, he's sexy, he's kissing me right, this is going to happen and its going to be mind-blowing and extremely satisfying. BOOOOOOOYYYYYYY was i wrong. Maybe its me, but i'm pretty sure its not. I suck it up with the best of them, and I had this guy toe-curling saying my name it was so good to him. If I have time to think about what i'm gonna do after work in three days that is not okay with me. Pump, pump, pump away sweetie, but if you got 8 inches, and can't work it, you don't deserve it. I was lonely in disappointment city, and wanted to just say ya know what it's okay you can stop. I didn't want to be mean, so i tried to change positions....Let's just say it was better, but not great. I was mostly disappoited because i really liked the guy.

I decided it would be wrong this time to just write him off, so i decieded i'll give him another chance, it was our first time, i'll give him the benefit of the doubt. So we take a break from that, and focus on building our relationship. We deciede there is no nervous pressure, we are comfortable with each other, let's try this again. (GOOD COMMUNICATION MAKES A BETTER RELATIONSHIP). So we are getting hot and heavy just like before, and he is putting in work. I am feeling great, back arching, heavy breathing, moans and screams, i'm about to have an explosive orgasm, and he cums. If only you could see my level of pisstivity (yes I made up my own word for it). SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO close, yet let down again, and then had the audacity to ask me if I got off. Do I look satisfied right now?

I will take this as a learning experience and write this one off. I mean the communication was there, the chemistry was there, the passion was there, but we could not make it happen. You live you learn you get a vibrator to fill the gaps. Since this happened a while ago, I have since this time had better sex, so i know it wasn't me, and truly know we were not meant to have an intimate relation. Please continue to send in questions i know i haven't written in a while, but i am finding more time to get it done, so untill the next question rolls my way Much love and happiness...enjoy your night