Single life and Sexual frustration

Being a single woman especially in California is a rough task. We are constantly competing with younger, hotter versions of ourselves. Fresh face in many circles mean new challenges. I am at a crucial age where the guys I want to date are too immature to handle a grown woman interested in serious relationship status and not high school kicking it. Then you have the men that are older but looking to get married tomorrow to any young thing that will give them the time of day. Is it too much to ask for at this time in my life for a man that can handle a sexual relationship without the potential of getting obsessed? Or a man that wants to date a woman secure in herself and her future that has a healthy sexual appetite. I don't need you, but I want you in my world. I am picky with who I date or sleep with like any woman should be, so when there is a drought of men that are men and a flood of men that act more like women than most women my hopes for a good sex life are limited and depressing. I don't need you to be uber sensetive and in touch with your emotions I need a MAN, disconnectrd to his feelings and primed with carnal passion. As bad a that sounds that's what women really want. They say they want a man in touch with his emotions and caring and sensitive, but they leave him for the bad boy fixer-uppers. Don't confuse what i'm saying. Nobody ends up with the bad boy except the bad girl, why because they have a dysfunctional relationship that works. Every woman wants to know that the man they choose has that in them but knows that there is a time and place for it. Long story (already), short I either need to get boo'd up for this cuddle season or its going to be a very long and lonely season.