Get it, Get it now....

The average young adult in America has had sex. And how could they have not with the new norm of today’s society is that most young people, around the age of 14 and 15, are losing their virginities, because their friend did, that’s what they saw on TV, or their favorite music artist is talking about it, when not too long ago the norm was saving yourself for marriage. Even with all this change in society’s norms, there are a few people in college who still hold true and abstain from having pre-marital sex. A few of my friends in particular, have shared with me that when the topic turns to sex that sometimes they get uncomfortable, because they feel as though we are pressuring them into something without actually saying something. Most of them have said that the teasing gets old, but don’t want to give into this kind of peer pressure. Which is reasonable, who wants to say I lost my virginity because my friends wouldn’t stop teasing me? So few people realize the effect their words have on others, which leads to self-esteem issues and other problems.

So to continue, when I was talking to one of my guy friends about him still being a virgin, he said it was way harder in high school to be a virgin than in College, but life for him was improving as he got older. I think that is mostly due to him having found friends that are more mature, and don’t focus on getting laid as much as getting an education or at least don’t show it. He also said he wasn’t necessarily waiting for marriage, just for a girl that was good to him, and wouldn’t break his heart. (See ladies it goes both ways so don’t be so mean). My other friend said something similar, she was ready, but doesn’t want to feel like a piece of ass afterwards, which I totally get, nobody wants to feel like that. While at the same time, a lot of my guy friends say they don’t want to experience a virgin for the fear that they get attached as many first timers do, which is a topic for another day.

As you can tell I am very passionate when it comes to me having sex, I mean hello my whole blog, but it concerns me when my younger cousins who are 14, 16, and 18 are in the influential age group that are having sex. I’m more-so concerned for the young ones that are in high school, because high school students peer pressure about sex more than any other age group. I hope by the time you get to this point that you don’t think I’m condoning pre-marital sex in any shape form or fashion. If you are ready, go with your gut, and don’t let anyone influence you. To give my little two cents, as far as age goes, if you can’t support yourself at 15 you can’t support a baby, so you shouldn’t be doing anything you’re not prepared to deal with for the long run. It’s always okay to say no, and that goes for men and woman.

So keep sending me those questions and until the next question rolls my way much love and happiness...enjoy your night

Story time...

The reason I became so interested in the affairs of sex, is because my first time, like a lot of girls I know, wasn't the idea of romantic or for that matter even good. I wasn't in love, I wanted to sleep with a different guy but I liked him so much I didn't want him to be my first for the fear of "virginitis" (a term i coined for those people who become attached to the people who take their virginity). I figured that the hype for sex was clearly over exaggerated, because what i experienced was not glamorous, sexy, fun anything that the media makes sex out to be. I didn't want to be discouraged by my misfortunate first time, so I got back up on the horse and tried again, this time with the guy I had a huge crush on. It was better, but I felt like since I was the common denominator in this situation maybe it was me that was bad at sex. At this point I was determined to get the glamorous sex I craved. I began reading, watching, asking friends, and basically anything under the sun I could to know more about sex. To make this long story a little shorter, I didn't think about the best way to learn is to start having sex. I learned that you learn about technique but just like sports, music and other hobbies, pratice makes perfect, or at least for better sex. Much love and happiness...enjoy your night.