March 4, 2009

Oral Aversion?

There is an increasing number of men I have encountered and met that are not willing to go down on a woman but expects the woman to go down on him. There is also a large number of women that refuse to go down on a man, but expect him to do it to them. I don't understand it people!!! What's the problem??? How can you expect your partner to give you oral pleasure and not be willing to reciprocate? It's just wrong. I can maybe understand if you weren't good at it but that is something the two of you can work on.
There are so many options for the two of you to consider. They have workshops, pornos, magazines, books, TV shows dedicated to educating the masses on the joys and pleasures of learning how to please your partner orally. If the only reason is you don't know how that's pretty lame, mostly cause you are just being lazy.
If it's because in their nether regions there is a funny smell, this can be caused by a various number of problems. It can be poor hygiene, which is one of the biggest problems, an infection, sweat from foreplay, or a combination of the sorts. This is a major turn off that can be readily fixed to keep the mood going and can later be discussed. Some options may be getting busy in a pool or shower something that gives you a lot of access to water and can relieve you of the smell. If the mood is totally killed talk to them about what made it go sour (literally). Your partner may be embarrassed, but at least they know for next time and it's something you two will eventually be able to laugh off.
From my own personal experience, there was a guy, lets call him "LA" that I used to kick it with. LA was what you would categorize as a sex thing. We only saw each other basically to fuck. LA is the type of guy that thinks he's God's gift to women and if he's fucking you, you're one of the choosen few. LA loves to get head, always said mine was amazing the best he ever had, but after a while the same shit get played out. I go down on him he fucks me...nothing spectacular for me, great for him okay for me. I realized what was missing was a great oral session for me. What I have concluded was that LA just wasn't good at it. I came to this conclusion when I used tried and true methods, such as changing the scene to be near water, getting myself checked out, keeping it shaved cause I know that's how he likes it. Nothing worked for me. I knew it wasn't a me problem so I brought it to his attention. LA said he never wanted to go down on a girl, not because anything was wrong with her, he just didn't want to be thought of as inferior in any aspect of sex. Needless to say I'm not wasting my time with someon so ignorant anymore, but the thought never left my mind. Isn't it inferior to not try at something, especially with sex, because practice only makes you better. So the moral of the story, fellas don't get lazy and ladies if you're scared of the penis you shouldn't be having sex you're not ready.
If this intrigued you or you have more questions please feel free to ask away or contact me for more. Untill the next question rolls my way Much love and happiness...enjoy your night.

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