Generation Y and Marriage...rarely together

The holy sacrament of marriage is nothing to be taken lightly, yet in today’s society people are getting married left and right. So why is it that black women are among the highest percent of women that are still single at age 40? Books, movies, even newspapers and magazines show the statistics of professional black women not married at age 40 and up. Black women love to idealize the female role models like Oprah for being successful, and take her advice on dating and relationships, but they don’t realize she’s not married, and well over 40. Personally I look up to Oprah for her professional achievement, but I’m not going to her for relationship advice, I look to my parents and grandparents who have been married since before I was born and stayed together. Women tend to get so wrapped up in the glitz and glam of weddings that they forget to look at the person they are choosing to spend the rest of their life with. A wedding is a fancy party, and a marriage is a lifetime commitment. Although with the emotional decay within the institution of marriage, forever isn’t forever, it is only as long as you can both stand to be married. So not only is the strength of marriage breaking down, the emotional stability within black women to find a suitable mate is not looking too positive either. Successful black women are given this image, that since they are “perfect” in the professional realm, physical attributes, and social circles, they are well rounded enough to find a man perfect just like them. However, the reason they can’t find “Mr. Perfect” is because there are no good men left. This is so untrue, there are plenty of well rounded, successful black men, but they get overlooked and treated poorly, by the women that emotionally can not handle a worthy man based on the ideals that they are given. If more women looked at the qualities a man has and less at the high standard checklist they dream a man would have, they would find not “Mr. Perfect” but “Mr. Perfect for them”.