Assorted Affairs

I have never intentionally been one to be the other woman, but it has on occassion come to the table. One night of hot, lustful sex doesn't make up for the guilt I felt for the woman in that relationship, because I have been on both ends of the spectrum and neither side is fun. Well the mistress side is fun for a little while. But at any rate, cheating and affairs have peaked my interest lately, because of lingering memories of steamy passions coming to revive some glimmer of ecstasy in my new image of 2010. Don't get me wrong I am quite tempted to give into the inviting offer, but the guilt that I keep feeling for this girl so in love with this slimeball of a guy makes the scale of him balance and i'm back at zero. I know it sounds awful right, but when you harbor a crush for a guy for 8 years and then he delivers on the sensual pleasures, a few things go out the window, defintely not planned things. But I digress back to my point, "Cheating: who's to blame?".
Why people cheat, who they cheat with, and what happens when you get caught? these are the biggest questions that concern people when the topic of cheating comes up. I talked about what constitutes cheating a while back, but not I want to look at motives and my own personal experiences.
Why MEN cheat, is for the most part because of sex, but occasionally for emotional reasons. They can't go to their partner because of some sort of resentment, misplaced anger/hostility/frustration, lack of trust, or simply just not really caring about the person to begin with. Who MEN cheat with, is basically who they have access to. Looking at Tiger Woods in the recent news, he worth a billion dollars so he has bitches all over the place. My ex, James, cheated because of opportunity and convience. The more temptation a man has and the more the opportunity presents itself, the more likely he will be to cheat if you can't keep him happy majority of the time.
Why WOMEN cheat, is usually more so because of a deeper emotional connection to the person they are cheating with. They aren't getting their emotional needs met with the person they are with, so they look for other mates. Who WOMEN cheat with, is basically the typical man she would date. She's looking for her next mate, not her next fuck, because the man she's with provides her with that.
So while both may cheat for similar reasons women are looking for a new mate to give them what they need and men are looking to "emotionally release" *PLEASE keep in mind this is my general opinion and you don't have to agree with it, i'm not saying its a fact*
So you caught your partner cheating, you're furious, frantically looking to hurt someone, break something or throw an object that shatters. Why is your first thought to be mad at the mistress or you know what there is no word for the man that cheats with the taken woman. Anywho, we should be directing the anger we have at the partner that stepped outside the relationship, but then again when you're mad, you go for the person unfamiliar to you not the person you thought you knew. This is actually getting to be a little longer than I had anticipated, so i'm gonna end with this.